Drama, drama.....and more drama...

    Well, not really. You see, several months ago I came to the realization that drama kept falling on our doorstep. Turns out, it was because we welcomed it. Well, I did. In the last several years we have had what others would consider some very dramatic life events. Truthfully, several of them were very traumatic. What resulted, was a family that was always waiting for the other shoe to drop. And it did......every month or so.
Of course, I myself, latch on to my own children's problems in an effort to solve them. Big mistake. Don't get involved in  your adult children's problems. They can handle it on their own.
  Drama became normal and I had forgotten how to not have an emotional event occurring in my life. So a month or so ago I made the commitment to step back and just observe. I also have tried very hard not to mention any drama I have been privy too....Except in the case of my dear mom, who listens to every complaint I have and never herself complains. But I've tried to tone that down too....She should be happy, also!
  So it must be true that we are the creators of our own worlds. As we create our environment we can also, to a degree, pick and choose what we will allow in our world. It is a daily effort to contain the chaos and douse the drama. But, it is totally worth the effort. Not everything is that big of a deal! We sure can make it more important than it really needs to be, can't we?

Gemini

So if you know me you probably suspect I am a compilation of several personalities. Not schizophrenic, mind you. I can't even spell it. As a Gemini, I do tend to vasilate between organized thought Kathy and "woohoo!" Kathy. This demonstrates itself in my blogging. For instance, did you know that I actually have another blog of the same title? You can find it at this address; survivingfertility.com .  This is a wordpress blog. It is neatly presented as an offering to all of those poor souls who have endured some of the challenges that my family has. However, because I have the Woohoo side of me, it has yet to be completed. So this is what remains. Might I add that neither of these blogs seems particularly useful to anyone. Oh, well.  It has always been my opinion that blogging is on line journaling. and that's okay!  So when my mind rambles and you care to listen, this is the blog for you. When you need some help for the parenting beatings we get from time to time, check out the other. Hopefully, organized Kathy will get her act together and put the productive blog in order!!!
    Kathy

Cookie Cutter Families

So.....when I was imagining my family I made the mistake of creating an image in my head of what a family looks like, acts like, lives in and grows up to be. Big mistake. Why do we girls do that? It's ridiculous. Families come in all shapes and sizes.  They morph into different shapes and sizes and attitudes!
    This Christmas I had all of my family with me. It was crazy!  And I loved it! I was exhausted, overwhelmed, and cleaning all the time! I used to do all of that every Christmas when they were all little and I was ever the martyr because of it. This time was different, though.  I felt so much gratitude that I was able to serve and take care of my family.  I was just so happy that they were there and that I had an opportunity to spend time with them.
    So my family is a huge hodgepodge of personalities, sizes, values and ideals......at the end of the day we have the most important thing in common.  We all love on another.
    Is this the family I imagined I would have? Well sort of. It's big, it's fun, it's loving. The important things are there.  Last week I remembered the very day that I decided I wanted a big mormon family. 30 some years ago Norm and I were invited to a family home evening(mormon for family night) of a very large family. There were kids and babies and grandmas, grandpas, moms and dads. We were all watching a movie. I couldn't really hear the movie or pay attention to it.  All I felt was the spirit telling me that this was awesome. Family is the most important thing and they are forever no matter their shape or size. I realized in the past few weeks that I have realized that dream. It may be it's own version of what I saw that day, but it will do in a pinch.
    I am so grateful for the blessings that Heavenly Father has given to Norm and I, everyone of them.